How do I check myself without shrinking myself?

Checking yourself is not about playing small.

It’s about being aware that:

it’s not about who is right — it’s about what is right.

Pause before you respond.

Many of us react.

We respond from anger, excitement, stress, or the need to sound smart.

But what if you paused?

Just five seconds.

And asked yourself:

Where is this response coming from?
Am I trying to be right?
Or am I trying to serve the moment?

Because when you pause, you shift from reacting to responding.


If you’re working on responding more intentionally, this conversation continues on The UnLearners Podcast episode: “Check Yourself – You’re not always right.”